Show Some Love: Oven Roasted Dungeness Crab & Chocolate Fondue

I have a confession to make. I am not a fan of Valentine's Day. Sure, I have a taste for conversation hearts like everyone else, but other than that I'm just not into it. Where does all this scroogy cynicism come from? Well, in my mind, Valentine's Day might as well change it's name to Anxiety Day, based off my angst ridden collage of Valentine memories.  Memories of early grade school crisis's of choosing the perfect Garfield valentine for my crush,  awful Valentine's dances in high school (which really only served the purpose of confirming, yes, yes, I'm breaking up with him),  getting sent roses in college from that stalkerish guy in history class,  that jerk who forgot about Valentine's Day, all the way to those anti-Valentine's Day man bashing sessions you have with your girlfriends (they only leave you feeling like the pettier sex, because once again you've wasted your entire evening talking about them). And what about worst of all when you are just starting to date someone and V Day rears it's ugly head? You look everywhere but you just can't find a card that says " I might like you a little bit, but I'm not crazy in love with you yet, so don't go getting any ideas." Hallmark doesn't make that one, but they really should. Then when you are in a relationship those dreaded Valentine's Days spent at work where your heart jumps a little every time the UPS guy walks in? And you told your man, not to waste his money on flowers, they die, etc, etc, but you didn't mean it, did you? (Men, we never really mean that. Seriously we don't.) Then the Valentine's day you realize you have your good man because he sent you the perfect bouquet of non-roses in your favorite flower color, with no trace of baby's breath in sight, and it was just slightly (but significantly) bigger than all the other girl's bouquets? Then it hits you that you have spent your whole entire day waiting to be sad, mad, happy, or worst of all disappointed. All in the name of love and chocolates?? What other holiday causes so much turmoil, make-ups and break-ups?(The holidays you spend too much time with your family don't count....) Do you see how awful my attitude is? Atrocious. Just terrible.

At least it was until the other day. The other day I was helping my 3 year old stuff her cute "Disney Princess" valentines when she asked me "Mommy, what is Valentine's Day?" I was about to launch into the history of St.Valentine, the Emperor Claudius and Victorian greeting cards, but instead I told her "Valentines Day is a day where we tell the people we love, we love them." In that moment, I knew what I just said wasn't the normally contrived answer used to placate my curious child, it was the truth. I started thinking of the good Valentine memories, like when my dad used to bring my little sister and I teddy bears and flowers, making us feel so very special. Life has come full circle and now and I have two little girls of my own and the opportunity to show them that same love. I started thinking about the past Valentine's Days spent with my husband, and all the future ones to look forward to. I thought about the fact that while the main gift may change, he can always be counted on to bring home a good bottle of red wine and some dark chocolate. Now who wouldn't want to be able to circle a date on the calendar every year and say to themselves "today I am going to get some wine and chocolate!" I mean, that is pretty cool right?

The truth is Valentine's Day is about love and the celebration of that love. Your "true love", your dog, your grandbabies, your best friend, it doesn't matter who is on the receiving end of that love, the point is you are just supposed to show them love. You can show them that love with cut out paper hearts, two dozen roses, or simply by telling them. The only point is to express your love, the vehicle in which you do it in really doesn't matter. Sometimes it seems like there is hardly enough love to make the world go round, so WHY NOT celebrate a day that is specifically designed to be about love?  I have given myself a major attitude adjustment. Now give yourself one too. Go spread the love.

Oven Roasted Dungeness Crab with Fresh Herbs & Lemon
Serves 2
This recipe is so delicious! I always make this during Dungeness Crab season (December-March) for either birthdays or Valentines Day.

6 ounces unsalted butter (divided into 4 oz and 2 oz pieces)
1/4 cup good olive oil
Habenero hot sauce to taste (I use a tablespoon)
3 garlic cloves, minced
3 Tablespoons shallots, minced
2 cooked, cleaned Dungeness crabs*
6 Tablespoons fresh herbs, chopped (I used tarragon and parsley, but you could use thyme, cilantro, arugula)
1 Large lemon, juiced and zested
3/4 cup Riesling, Gewurztraminer, or Champagne
Salt & pepper

* Buy the freshest crab possible, preferably live, have the fishmonger kill and back crabs for you. Cook within 4 hours. To cook, boil in salted water for 17 minutes. Drain in colander. If buying crab already cooked, make sure crabs are not missing any legs, as this is a sign crabs are not fresh. The crabs with the biggest legs have the most meat.

Preheat oven to 500 degrees.

Rinse crabs. Crack the legs from the cooked crab and section the breasts. Melt 4 ounces of the unsalted butter and the olive oil over medium heat in a large ovenproof saute pan or deep skillet. Add garlic and shallots and saute until translucent, about 2 minutes. Stir in hot sauce to taste.  Add crabs, season with salt and pepper and stir, sauteing for another minute or two. Add 4 tablespoons of the chopped herbs and half of the lemon zest. Stir.

Transfer the pan to the oven and roast for 10-12 minutes. (Stir once halfway through.) Remove pan from oven and transfer crab to a big platter. Cover crab and keep warm. Put saute pan back over medium heat and add lemon juice and Riesling. Increase the heat to medium high and bring mixture to a boil. Reduce by half (about 4 minutes). Stir in 2 ounces reserved butter. Pour sauce over crabs and sprinkle with 2 tablespoons of herbs and rest of lemon zest. Serve immediately with sourdough bread!


Chocolate Fondue

8 ounces chopped semi-sweet chocolate (60% cacao) (Try Trader Joe's chocolate baking disks)
1 Cup heavy cream
1 Tablespoon unsalted butter
1 Tablespoon Cabernet, Syrah, or Zinfandel

Dipping ideas:
Strawberries
Bananas
Brownies
Pound Cake
Cheesecake

In a medium saucepan, over medium low heat melt chocolate, butter, and cream. Stir until smooth. Add wine and stir again. Transfer to a fondue pot with a flame going underneath. Serve with dipping items, enjoy!

Happy Valentine's Day! Don't worry, it's cranberry juice!